The relationship cycle

Tubman Family Alliance has adopted the ecological model of relationships, including those with violence. The ecological model along with the dynamics of family violence serve to explain and help those who are experiencing violence in their relationships. The ecological model is based on concepts historically explained in the cycle of violence.

The ecological model was developed by Dr. David M. Schnarch of the Marriage and Family Health Center in Evergreen, Colorado and Dr. James Maddock and Dr. Noel Larson of the University of Minnesota. It is a map of how all types of relationships develop and grow.

Dr. Schnarch's research found the following four principles to be key in developing healthy relationships:

• Maintaining a clear sense of yourself while being close to someone important to you
• Tolerating pain/discomfort for growth
• Not reacting to your partner's anxiety
• Soothing your own hurts

Learn more about relationship stages and answers to Frequently Asked Questions about relationship violence.