Leaving

Leaving an abusive situation is potentially a dangerous time. Violence could dramatically escalate when you try to leave or show signs of independence. Your partner could become desperate at the thought of losing control of you, causing the violence to escalate. However, there are things you can do to reduce the risk of harm.

If you are considering leaving an abusive relationship, you should make arrangements for a safe place for you and your children to stay. This might be a relative or friend's home or a shelter for victims of family violence. If possible, set up your own checking account or make arrangements to have money available. It may be helpful to find someone who is willing to lend you money should you need to leave in a hurry.

Checklist
What to take with you

Driver's license
Birth certificates (yours and your children's)
Credit cards
Money
Work ID
Green card
Passport
MFIP identification
Unemployment card
Voter registration card
Marriage license
Copy of protective order (OFP)
Divorce papers
Social Security numbers for you, your partner, and your children
Address book
Medical and immunization records
Health insurance information
Keys to car(s) and/or house
Vehicle registration information
Bank books, check books, ATM card, stocks
All financial information
Prescription drugs
Copies of prescriptions
Spare eye glasses or contact lenses
Children's special blanket, doll, or other favorite toy
Photo album or other important sentimental objects

If you are in immediate danger, leave right away. You may be able to retrieve your personal belongings later with a police escort.