Safety planning

If you are still in the relationship:

• Think of a safe place to go if an argument occurs. Avoid rooms with one entrance/exit like the bathroom or rooms with weapons like the kitchen.
• Think about and make a list of safe people to contact.
• Keep money with you at all times, at least coins for a phone call.
• Memorize all important numbers–phone, social security, etc.
• Establish a “code word” or “signal” so that family, friends, teachers, or co-workers know when to call for help.
• Think about what you will say to your partner if he or she becomes violent.
• For information about receiving an emergency cell phone to use for 911 calls, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-888-901-SAFE (7233) or contact Tubman Family Alliance directly at 612-825-3333.

Remember that you have the right to live without fear and violence.

If you have left the relationship:

• Change your phone number.
• Screen calls.
• Save and document all contacts, messages, injuries, or other incidents involving the abusive partner.
• Change locks, if the abusive partner has a key.
• Avoid staying alone.
• Plan how to get away if confronted by an abusive partner.
• If you have to meet with your partner, do it in a public place like the police station.
• Vary your routine.
• Notify school and work contacts.
• Call a domestic violence shelter. To connect to the nearest shelter call 1-866-223-1111.